RE: Have you ever been to the “first circuit party” in Manila?
MY RESPONE
You are correct in mentioning that due to our “conservative” culture, the circuit parties in this country will still be having hard time to become a periodic gathering in an acceptable and respected fashion.
However, i doubt if the circuit parties will really reach its success in this country just like those in America even if LAdLAd would make it to the House of Representatives or Danton Remoto in the Senate.
Let me start sharing you my thoughts by saying that I am a bisexual and i have mentioned it in the introductory class discussion in all my classes.One of my classmates approached me after the class and said, “How does it feel that you are now free?” At first I didn’t know how to answer him, but there were two major thoughts that occupied my mind. First, is he asking how does it feel that my homosexuality can now be somewhat legitimately exercised? or would he like to know if i now love my status as a homosexual? The first one seems to ask if i have the guts now to behave as a gay. The second one,if i now have accepted being gay.
I mentioned this as my spring board to answer your concern primarily because I think, the reason why circuit parties will never be like those of the USA is that LGBT here in the Philippines themselves choose not to be as radical as compared to other countries in terms of social gatherings. Here, I would like to debug the idea that LGBT here in the country would not want to be allowed in organizing and attending events like circuit parties but more on an intimate level of not just being accepted but more of being supported to become better persons through a life of being a homosexual by means of opportunities of enabling more than existing. Knowing the controversies that circuit parties are associated with like drug abuse,prostitution, STD, and AIDS, and the fact that majority of LGBTs here in the country have to work hard while assuming their given genders upon fully realizing that they are part of an economically challenged nation, and precisely as what you’ve said, the fact that we are morality-seeking individuals (thanks to the Church) that liberates us more from inflicting pain to others specially to our family while also fulfilling our satisfactions in non-sexual activities, such as career advancement and the mere fact that we are able to champion our families’ needs provide us more of a grip of our selves with regard to events like this that, admit it, will just provide temporary happiness and will not really lead us to our betterment as individual persons and the progress of our sexual orientation. It will just make us visible, but it is not enough indication of our quality.
In the light of the two things about homosexuality that circumvented my mind upon that classmate’s inquiry, i had cleared my thoughts upon realizing that i am free in terms that i have found the point where i should begin reconciling being a homosexual and being responsible for it in order to pursue a life worth living not just for myself but for the people i care for. Of course, the circuit parties is not just confined to the issues of the events themselves but we always have to consider up to the largest, longest and most individually-binding concerns to us being a human first before our being in the light of sexual orientation. And by being human, i would like to emphasized that we are born not alone but with neighbors and as neighbors to other humans as well which i think most of the persons of all sexual orientations tend to ignore upon doing womanizing, adultering, “picking up”, “partying”, and by my last quoting, I emphasize the negative aspects that are more frequently occurring in reality even if guised by good intentions.
To conclude, we have already learned to undo a yet to be learned passion for our insufficient expression of our orientation’s existence by precisely looking on history, our pragmatics, and our very definition of what homosexuality is.
